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Discovering Your Worth: Happiness Through Confidence

What’s the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning? Scroll through your phone? Hit snooze? Roll out of bed for breakfast? What would you say if I told you I had a challenge for you?

The first thing you should do when you wake up is go to the bathroom mirror. Or open your phone’s camera. Hey, it would even work looking out the window. What I’m after is for you to look at your reflection. Your beautiful, unique, authentic reflection.

Once you’re staring into your soulful eyes, speak the words “I Am Worthy.” It’s a lot harder than it sounds, isn’t it?

Practicing Your Positivity

If you found that exercise strange, that’s totally normal! One of the most challenging things in our lives is telling ourselves how amazing we are. Society and our immediate environments dictate how we should think, act, and feel, and we tend to lose ourselves along the way.

Practicing positive self-talk every day (it doesn’t always have to be in the mirror!) is an important part of building your confidence, which in turn leads to building a happier you. When asked what you want out of life, most people say they want to be happy and healthy, right? But how do we live up to those desires? It starts with you and your confidence.

Building the Foundation

No matter what you’re creating, maintaining a strong, sturdy foundation is crucial to ensuring safety and longevity. You don’t want a building to collapse or a relationship to fall apart moving forward because you haven’t put in the work to securing the foundation.

Where does your foundation come from? The heart and mind.

Think about that exercise above. What emotional and physical responses were triggered when you tried it out? When I first did it, I struggled to say the words loudly and my stomach twisted in knots. I felt a bit silly talking to myself in the mirror, but I knew I needed to do it. Creating a positive life isn’t always easy, but it’s important to remember that we all deserve happiness.

Your heart and mind are the tools we use to build our lives. Our heart tells us to follow our passions, live our dreams, and act impulsively. Our minds offer us logic, perception, and stores all the knowledge we’ve accumulated in our lives.

These two parts of us work together to create the amazing human you are and grow to be. What happens when one of those parts is tainted with negativity? The negativity grows until it completely takes you over. You don’t have to carry that weight around inside you. You’re allowed to set it free.

Releasing The Toxins

We all have bad days, there’s no denying that. We struggle with not having control and situations not turning out ideally. What we need to realize is that the only things we can control in our lives is our thoughts, actions, and attitude towards ourselves.

Have you ever had a pesky negative thought slip into your mind? That voice in the back of your head that likes to insult you and feed you doubt. Did you know that you don’t have to listen to that voice? You can cast it completely out of your mind and never hear from it again.

But remember… it takes practice, and it’s something we must practice every day.

You Are Worthy

After you’ve practiced telling yourself how incredible you are in the mirror, I’d like you to put it in writing. Make a list of every single positive word that describes you. Creative. Intelligent. Practical. Mother. Sister. Daughter. Any words that define your true self.

Once you’re done, tape it on your mirror so that you can look at it every morning. Seeing and speaking those words will spark something in you over time. If you keep reinforcing the ideas that you are loved, wanted, and exceptionally worthy (even if you don’t believe it now) you will start to believe it wholeheartedly.

It takes too much energy to focus on the negative, and you deserve so much more from this world than you think you do. Living with confidence in yourself and knowing what value you offer is so important to living a happy life.

Know what you deserve and hold onto it! You are worthy, and no one can take that away from you.

Kirsten McNeill

Writer & Editor

Creator of K.M. Writing Services

FB & IG: @writer.kirsten

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